What Do You Know About Adoption?
There are many misunderstandings about adoption. Two of the most common are that people think they are “giving up” their babies to strangers, or that they will never see them again. While that used to be true, the adoption process has changed significantly over the last few decades. Let us help to clear up some of the misconceptions and give you the facts about all of the options you have today.
Adoption Is Not Giving Up Your Baby
The perception that you are “giving up” your child is untrue and creates unnecessary guilt in women considering adoption. “Giving up” implies a lack of concern or love for the baby. Nothing could be further from the truth! Adoption is one of the most selfless and loving decisions a person can make. It is choosing to give your baby the gift of a family–and giving a family the gift of your baby!
You Have Choices
Today’s adoption process allows a birth mother many options. You can choose your baby’s family, how involved you would like them to be in your birth plan, and the level of contact you want in the future. There are three different types of adoption plans. The choice is yours and you can take your time deciding.
By far, open adoption is the most popular plan today. With open adoption, you and the adoptive couple you choose exchange identifying information such as full names, addresses, and phone numbers. You can meet one another before your baby is born and determine the relationship you want moving forward.
This plan is similar to open adoption, but you do not exchange identifying information. You select the adoptive couple and have the opportunity to meet before the baby’s birth. However, all contact and correspondence are handled through a third party, such as your adoption coordinator.
You remain completely anonymous when you choose a closed adoption plan. The adoption coordinator you work with selects the adoptive couple. The courts seal the original birth certificate, and you have no contact with your child or their adoptive parents.
Is Adoption Right For You?
Only you can decide what is best for you and your child. We can discuss this option in greater detail and provide adoption agency referrals. Schedule an appointment with one of our peer advocates to discuss all of your options.